Andy-my relationship with Adrian is such that I too have to do alot of stuffing. Especially about effection. It hurts. He too will let me cuddle and will take my hand in the car. He will say ILY. That's a big thing, but Imiss all the little things. I posted several times today already that I miss the little rub onthe back that says I'm glad to be with you right now, or him protectively putting his arm around me, or being playful with me. If I am playful with him first he will participate, but kindof half heartedly. SO many things that people take for granted that their S do, I miss. Adrian is somewhere inbetween withdrawal and ecceptance in MLC. I guess this is part of it. Like you, I cannot say anything without makinghim out to be the villan-or at least that would be his perception if I whined or asked for this or that. I too wait for him to start doing more-looking all the time for those baby steps. We ahve come along way and I know it will get better-at least I hope it will. SOmetimes you just get tired of waiting for it to, but what choice do we have? Not good ones. I asked you if you feel alone in a house full of people becasue that is how I feel a great deal of the time. I'mm not sure what is to be done that we are not already doing which for me is trying to be as safe for him as possible showing h im constantly that heis loved unconditionally without asking him for anything. DO you think they'll "get it" one of these days? I sure hope so. Rachael
