We went out very often until lately. We went to MF’s house every Saturday night. We went to movies with MF and his W. We went to flea markets with MF. We went riding with MF. We’d go over to MF’s house to help him out, and he’d come over to our house to help us. We went to comedy clubs with MF and his W (and TF for those who remember him).
Do we ever hang out at home and talk? Sometimes. Of course, the talking is often dominated by our kids. Sometimes, I sneak up behind her when she’s alone in the kitchen, and we talk for several seconds before one of the kids comes in.
Morning coffee before the kids got up worked for awhile.
Last week, I had the week off, so we had breakfast in a restaurant a coupla times before W went off to do her stuff. That was nice.
You’re also right that I’m lonely in a crowd. And you’re also right that I’m posting as a person who’s more lonely the last few days than usual. It’s not always that bad.
Why does she prefer to be alone rather than seeking my company? That’s a good question. Her answer is that we can’t leave S#2 up to the kids all the time. So, we have to take turns doing things, and reserve the time we foist on the kids for important things such as socializing with our friends.
But to answer your question, is what I’m doing working? I have to say yes.
Two years ago, she would go out w/o saying where she was going. She never invited me along. “Married people don’t have to do everything together.” She acted like she’d been visited by the Spanish Inquisition if I asked her what she was up to.
KAW,
I remember that episode. Hopefully, one day, W will be able to ignore my stink and chase me. How’d that be for a 180?
JJ,
I was only half joking with you, too. Pre-bomb, we were actually quite playful. Part of the bomb that was dropped on me was that W didn’t want to play, but I didn’t listen.
She wouldn’t wonder what I’m up to. She’d assume it’s just a return to the “bad old days.” The days when I assaulted her (exaggeration, but you know what I mean).
But I understand what you mean about going wild sometimes. I’ll keep that in by bag of tricks for future reference.
