Quoting Jamesjohn:not saying a word, and just give her a strong hug? Then just walk away, and leave her alone.
P.S. On second thought, ANS, screw whether you're comfortable with it or not, JUST DO IT, DAMMIT!!! If she asks you what that was for, say something like "just because....".
Very good advice. I was one of those wives, "whats wrong" was as common to say as how was your day. What I really wanted to say is ,"how can I make you feel better." Of course neither was really possible. Now I will give a hug, squeeze on the arm. The other night when he came to pick up the kids, he was real frazzled I invited him in, gave him a back rub and told him good night! He smiled and said "thanks, you know just what I needed." I didn't know really, lol, but I know how to get him to relax! I think the key to what James said is offer the reassurance, then let go! ~~Bonnie
