Because Andy I don't beleive her feelings are dead-just sleeping perhaps. I too felt my feeliongs for my H were dead in the water 11 yrs ago. Of ourse there was an affair involved which complicated things but even without it I was at a place with him where I did not know if I felt ANYTHING towards him except that he was my H and the Father of my children. No warm, fuzzies anywhere. Point is they came back! The feelings. I don't know how or why they just slowly did and I love him more today than ever before. Sometimes I wonder if he had his A to get "back" at me. He was DEVASTATED. HE may have justified it because of mine-he also has to suffer greatly like I did-the part he didn't realize that the hardest thing in an A is to forgive yourself.I think he runs from those feelings but they will never be far from him until he deals with them. Your wife is exhausted-maybe she does not have the energy to fight for her R with you right now. It may not be the right time for her. The only sure thing is change though-it will not be like this forever, I promise. Rachael
