Thanks Andy. I know I have to really think this one out. We need to discuss trust issues ans not just pretend they don't exist for me-they do. What he chose to do corroded my trust fro him and he cannot expect it to just come back because he wants it to, or becasue he SAYS I can trust him. He lied to me for a very long time. Consequenses are: it will take a long time for me to trust him, he will have to earn it over time, and he may not like some of the thigns I need to ask him in order to start rebuilding the trust. Thus, the cell bill. WIll it make me trust him if her # is not onthere-no not totally, but it will help alot. STill, I'm not convinced its the thing to do. I keep going back to just let it be. TO let go of the need to see it would mean to him I trust him and he would want to live up to that expectation I would think. If he's talking to her its not nessecarily on the cell-it could be from his office phone where there would be no record. Bottom lin is if he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat. I would just like to know and not be in the dark if he is. Rachael
