I know I can get those feelings back if things go the right way. I'm just pretty fragile right now. I keep thinking of how Sage (amongst others) lost their feelings, and it scares me. Don't know if you came accross Me2, or Wintergirl, but some of the difficulties they had accepting their H's changes (and vice versa) come to mind.
I hope you can hang in there long enough to recover - not only the Duke's feelings - but your own.
Yes. MF's W told him that she doesn't want us in her house. She later said it was OK for him to meet with us - even ride with us - but she didn't want to see us anymore.
As to the "helping" me thing. All I can do is ride it out, and hope that her "help" works. Perhaps - in time - she'll feel less need to "help" me.
There's so much positive that's happened to me of late. I know that. But, I feel like krap right now.
Just hafta ride it out.
Lisa,
I'm so sorry for you. What you describe is my biggest fear for myself. I'm also afraid that my W has irrevokably lost those feelings - and for some of the same reasons.
I was in the Naval Reserve for 23 years. When our kids were young, W had to fend for herself too much. I worked too many evenings and weekends. The extra money wasn't great, but it was a great part of why I stayed there. Like you, my W was proud of the fact that I gave up so much of what would have been my "spare" time to serve my country.
And, I was so proud of her for the sacrifices she made so that I could do so.
But, it seems like the only thing she sees about those days is the fact that she had to adapt to my absence.
I think that one of the reasons she wants to "teach" me is that she learned not to revolve her life around me.
My life revolves around her. To be honest, I don't enjoy my job, and only do it to make money for my family.
I was put on this earth to provide for my family. If I help a company set up it's financial system, it's a good thing, but 100 years down the road, it's my children... my childrens' children... etc. that will be my legacy.
But I still want that loving feeling (within me, and from my W) back.
I still hope it will happen. It may take a long time, but that's my goal.