Thanks for these words. I keep being told by friends my H and I may be able to get the D then get back together. HOLY CRAP how awful. Why go through it. What happended to committment? How did you two ever ge t it back and get over old hurts and heal wounds? We love each other but are both so hurt and angry things are so difficult we don't even talk hardly. He says he wants the D since he never sees it working again.