I think if you really need to see the cell phone bills that you should ask your H in a very non-threatening way.
"Adrian, I'm feeling the need for reassurance right now. Do you think I could look at your cell phone bills?" Something along those lines.
He knows you don't trust him -- how could you possibly trust him. He knows he has to earn your trust again. That will take a very long time.
I know some of the advice here is to just let it go, but I'm not sure that is always the right course. There has been a HUGE breech of trust here and I think you have a right to ask for reassurance. But, having said that, at some point you will have to start letting it go and decide to trust him again. That will ultimately be your decision.
May I suggest that you keep all your questions and comments about your sitch to your own thread. It just makes it easier to keep up with you and post back to you. Also, you won't have to keep repeating things. Don't worry, those of us who are keeping up with you will certainly visit your thread. And if you don't get a reply from a particular person you'd like to hear from, you can always go to their thread and ask them to visit your's.
Just a suggestion. Please don't get upset with me. I'd just like to be able to read all your stuff in one place
