You all humble me. I haven't had to go deal with nearly as much as you, and for that I am grateful.
Duchess, you wouldn't balk. Others have.
It doesn't bother me, though. DB is a set of techniques. One's motives for using those techniques are their own.
Though many people find it most effective, and calming to lovingly detach, it is not something I could ever do. The source of my problems was that W percieved me as uncaring, so it would not have worked for me at all. In any case, it just ain't in me.
It was painful. To be honest, it still is. It hurts me more than you can immagine whenever W referrs to the origins of our problems. I think that to her, it's fading and is therefore not a sore spot.
But those memories still hurt.
That's how I chose the name of my thread. I still carry the reminders of every glove that laid me down or cut me till I cried out.
