tielbeagle, WOW!! I feel like I have been reading my life (and marriage) story!! My husband told me that he never knew what kind of mood I would be in when he got home from work. I felt that marriage was easy, my H was always very loving and attentive. Wow, again. H did not tell me he loved me but wasn't in love with me, but I sure felt it. We are suffering through his MLC right now, have been for at least a year. Thank goodness for the bb on that here. I have read DB and I am currently reading DR. My sister sent them to us. I am not sure, but I think H read DR while I was out of town with my daughter, 11. But, even if he did, I am not holding too much hope for us to piece anything back together. There is an EA/OW in the picture, muddies things up quite a bit. But I am starting to live for myself (and our kids) and I am going to make 2003 a better year for myself than 2002 was. I am so thankful I found this site and there are people who can empathize and support me.
I did forget to add, my H isn't coming back. We are separated and he is having a good time being "free". We split time between and apartment and the house, one of us is at the house, while the other is in the apartment. It was crazy at first, but I am used to it. He likes not having to answer to anyone(exept the EA/OW, probably). Just like a teenager. I am not happy with that, he likes the limbo. But I am still going to be happy.
Lisa, If you don't mind, I would love to get your input on some emails from H over last 2 days. If you have time, would you stop by my thread? Just A Closer W-A-L-K With Me (under Newcomers). The posts starting 11/6/02 am.
Thank you!
God Bless!
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Ellie, well he seems to be doing well with it, no more depression although I think that was more from the MLC and the stress of the EMT class and disliking his job than the Thyroid condition. He never did believe he had a Thyroid condition because he never had any of the symptoms of it (except FOR depression). He won't even take the med. for it anymore, I can't force it down his throat I guess. He's much more at peace and a lot happier in his life now than he was last Feb-May. Could it be that the Dr. was wrong about a Thyroid condition? Anyway, thank you for inquiring. Lisa
tielbeagle, I wanted to say thank you for dropping by my thread. Although I don't post on your thread, I do read it every day. I hope that someday I can share input for the piecing group - with a lot of prayer and God's grace, perhaps I will.
Well, thank you again. I'll stop back by sometime. I hope you keep an eye on me too! I could use the help sometimes.
Take care. God Bless!
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Thanks for your winderful advice. I do feel there is still hope. I am being his best friend and attempting to hopefully have a couple of dates with him. Family crisis today. He's coming over on Sunday and at lunch time tomorrow. Will put on a good face. Hopefully, I can find that pink dress soon. Stop by every now and then. Also thanks for your other thread, It really has helped me.
Lisa - possible, but not too likely. Any way you could encourage H to get his blood tests rechecked since he is not taking his thyroid hormone? Might give his doctor a chance to talk to him more about it. This is not just about fatigue, weight gain, or even depression - having a low thyroid and not treating it can cause your cholesterol to rise and increases your chances of a heart attack, so this is not anything for a man to fool around with. Ellie
Ok, so my birthday is next month and H has asked me several times lately what I want. I keep saying "I want you". The first couple times his resonse was to roll his eyes and say "but what do you want". I'd say, just to go out to eat. Well last night he asked me again what I wanted and as usual I said "I want you". He stumbled around a bit and ended up saying "Well that is already there". Is there a reason he couldn't just say "you already have me"? Still no ILY's and he hasn't put his ring back on. Both of those things lead me to believe he isn't committed to me as of now. I guess I still have a lot of insecurity. Lisa
bumpity bump bump bump. update coming tomorrow i year anniversary. 