tielbeagle, WOW!! I feel like I have been reading my life (and marriage) story!! My husband told me that he never knew what kind of mood I would be in when he got home from work. I felt that marriage was easy, my H was always very loving and attentive. Wow, again. H did not tell me he loved me but wasn't in love with me, but I sure felt it. We are suffering through his MLC right now, have been for at least a year. Thank goodness for the bb on that here. I have read DB and I am currently reading DR. My sister sent them to us. I am not sure, but I think H read DR while I was out of town with my daughter, 11. But, even if he did, I am not holding too much hope for us to piece anything back together. There is an EA/OW in the picture, muddies things up quite a bit. But I am starting to live for myself (and our kids) and I am going to make 2003 a better year for myself than 2002 was. I am so thankful I found this site and there are people who can empathize and support me.