Piecing together, falling apart

[cat03]

sweety, listen, it is HIS problem, you need to detach, obviously he has lots of issues he needs to confront and he isnt' ready to do so yet.
I could see myself in you, talking about the cheese guy and keep reinforcing how I felt, etc etc. We women tend to do that, bring up a subject and then reinforce it with lots of reasons why we feel this way. I'm learning the hard way to keep it short, I literally close my mouth after I utter the first sentence:
BEFORE:" H, would you take the trash? because it is full, and the stuff is spilling up, I also put some chicken in there and I think it's rotting, so you need to take that out before it smells the whole house"

AFTER" H, would you take the trash out? thanks. THE END.

When we piece together we go 1 step forward, 2 steps back. It's ok, my H also had his moments of "This doesnt' seem to be working, "etc, etc.

He prob needs to cool off and might realize he went to far, he might not admit to the fact but it could happen. If he raises the D word, just tell him that you both need to think abou it a little more, that you guys had a rough time and that for each year of damage you need a month of healing, that things don't get better overnight.

Now get up and pat that belly, you are stronger than this, that baby is counting on you, hugs, no more despair ok?))))))))))))))