Piecing together, falling apart

[cat03]

He's obviously not left the anger/blame stage, (which took my H about 5mths to process) He'd talk to me fine, but later on admited he'd still held onto grudges and blamed me and still thought I was doing stuff too late.

Give him lots of space, even if that means he has to sleep on the guest room or he gets his own place, I was alone w/my kids for 7mths, it was hard but in the end we both agreed our situation wouldnt' have gotten any better had he never left. I learned I could make it on my own, and by the 3-4th month I found inner peace and strenght.

I know it's mind numbing to see yourself in this place, you didn't do anything heinous so you don't see how this can possibly be happening, but this too shall pass, he needs to work it out on his own, nothing you can say or do will make him realize it isnt' all your fault. He needs to see that he also was a part of the problem.
Detach, work on yourself, I learned too late that I shouldnt' have made my H resposible for my own happiness, GAL, do stuff that makes you feel happy.