You have two great DBers giving you great advice. Xue and Cat are right on the money. I will add my two cents. You need to turn things around and the way to start is to stop being negative. I know this is extremely difficult, but it will make sense. Instead of thinking of "losing everything" think of "winning everything". Turn the negatives around 180 degrees and think of how you can win everything...then just do it. Your new positive attitude will rub off on your DH. You will start to feel better about yourself. Just dont give up now. Keep fighting for what you want if it worth fighting for, but do it for YOU. Best of luck to you .
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