Piecing together, falling apart

[cat03]

I'm sorry you are going through this while prego, it makes it 2x as hard, hugs))))

Are you happy with your C? is there a path or plan and have you seen results within yourself? I had 2 Cs and only the one we got now produced the results we were seeking, 2yrs is too long not to have helped any (our first C just asked us half the time "so, how does that make you feel?", he helped some but nothing as much as the one we got now)

I also, now and then, get the "maybe I should be alone" sentence from my H, they do that. I also feel that I'm not allowed to mess up but I'm supposed to put up w/ all his crap. I do have a strong temper and fight so much to control it.
One thing i did a lot was being sarcastic, I found out that that lead to lots of fights, I stopped doing that. One lesson I'm trying to learn now is "is this worth a fight/argument?" we had a bad weekend and I saw that I could've handled things differently had I just gone along and not be a butthead.

My H is also defensive to no end, I try hard to use a soft tone of voice, affirm that I did hear him and that I just misunderstood him, helped some.

It must be one of those very bad days for us, I also was crying this am, wondering why I want this man that is so different than the man I loved and married. We need a little break, i've calmed down a bit here at work, a distraction will help us see things in perspective.

Please take care of yourself, you can't get this upset while carrying the baby, we have to remember not to let our angry 's set the tone for our attitudes, not to drag us down.