I just need to talk and I have nobody to talk to .. I'm just sitting here crying right now.
My DH and I separated in early May for a few weeks: he was pretty sure he wanted out of the marriage, but changed his mind when I took a pregnancy test later that month and it was positive. Since then, we've been living together, and things have been fine most of the time, but still VERY rocky, which is what tore us apart to begin with.
Let me start by saying that I can't be perfect 100% of the time. No matter how much I love him, no matter how much I try, I am sometimes going to be having a bad day and say something to him with a tone in it, say something snippy, etc. I CAN'T be perfect!!!!!!!!!!!!
Whenever something like this happens though, DH pounces on it. He gets so angry when I make even one comment. Like this morning he asked about a concert we were going to tonight, and I didn't realize he was kidding at first and said "How should I know?!" I didn't mean to start a fight ... I told him that ... but he's so sensitive, he just won't let it go!! I told him I don't want to argue and he says "well then you shouldn't have said that!" I told him I just wanted to have a nice rest of the day together and he said "It's a little late for that now!"
I can't win ... if I say even one thing he's all over it, and sometimes he even says he wants to end the marriage again. I am so stressed, I don't know what to do ... I'm at the end of my rope and I don't know if we're piecing this back together or just fooling ourselves. He gets so mad and just keeps getting madder and madder with every passing hour - he doesn't cool down, the time just gives him more reasons to be justified in his anger towards me.
We're both in individual counseling, and I really want to go back to marriage counseling, but it didn't help us change behavior before (we did it for 2 years), and he doesn't want to go back ...
I am so stressed ... and so sad. And really scared of losing everything
