thanks for response, I tell myself the same thing, if he really wanted to end m and do the single's thing, he would have left months ago, so I still pray there is something keeping him here. sue
hi hope your weekend was ok, we have many things to be thankful for, each of our h are still at home. Our sermon at church yesterday was Forgiveness. H and I don not sit together (he is in choir), but I got tears at some points and I think he probably saw them. Forgiveness is part of the process, as is patience. Heard on the radio that a study was done where some couples that divorced and some that stuck it out, were followed 5 years later, and the divorced ones were not any happier, and actually never realized what d would bring.They also said that d is quicker and easier then taking the time to work it out.We must be on the right track.
Hi tiel, thank you for stopping by my thread,I just read up on your sit and it encouraged me so much. I was also not supportive wife either and was always moody, most of the time not good at all. ( I was new to be a mom and enough to deal with our S at home back then)I now realize how stressful it was for my H to be at home with me,he is also the man who was always good to me and did all the best he could to support me,but I was taking him so much for granted, thinking he would never ever leave me, how stupid I was...then he dropped the bomb, he even sent a long letter to me and my parents to tell he did not love me any more, how unhappy he had been and disatisfied with his life, so it`s better to leave now than later if we think about our S etc., I do not want to remember how hurtful it was, I felt it was the end of the world. but after 5 months of my DB ( a separation of 8 motnhs now) ,maybe things has alittle changed in a communication level. The first 3 months of separation( no DB), absolutely no contacts between us,then started exchenging emails every 3 weeks( I started backing off and maybe LRT), and now it is getting every 2 weeks besides he initiated calling for the first time lately. He does not mention a D now and does not even say he does not love me for the reason of our separation, he just says we are different.Like you advised, what I am trying to do now is to be the girl he fell in love with, be supportive and be a good friend,but sometimes I just do not know what and how I can do that with me being so far away from him ( we are continent apart ) this is why I am so afraid of possibility of him finding OW ,I really wish I could be around him like you were with your H... do you have any ideas how I can be supportive and become his OW? I appreciate if you come by my thread again to check on me when you have time, take care Stars
For once I think I can offer something concrete to help somebody.
I am hypo-thyroid and have been on med (a T4 called Lavoxil) since Jan 01.
T3 must be converted by the liver into T3. The brain can't use it properly until this is done.
I augment my med by taking Selenium.
If your H has a lot of silver almalamate fillings then he would definitely benefit by taking Selenium With his med.
Have him store the med in the frig. If the inside of the bottle developes a fine powdery coating then it is no longer optimum.
If you want to really help him become healthy then go after his nutrition.
Calcium leaches the med from the system so it is important that he not have any calcium for 4 hours after taking the med. Fiber isn't a good idea either because the med will bind to it and flush from the system faster.
Example: If he doses every a.m. at 5:30 then his Break fast should be anything but dairy and fiber.
Hypos need that protein so encourage that.
Calcium, magnesium and zinc are needed. The calcium is best taken 3 times a day.
Iron is needed. Here's the kicker. If you med at 5:30 a then the iron should be added exactly opposite (5:30p) so as to optimize the body's use of the med.
Oh, and the calcium and iron shouldn't be taken together so you have to choreograph that a well.
Tiel, it took me 8 months of rigorous health maitenance to get to a healthy TSH (the closer to Zero the better your hormonal health!).
Booze is bad cause it taxes the liver which can't process the T4 optimally. Hypos who choose to drink alcohol should ingest a lot of water after the booze.
There's so much that can be done here.
Walking is a great way of getting the T3 (which either has to be converted from the T4 or prehaps is a T3 called Cyclomel which some people take in addition to the T4) into the brain.
Yoga is great also.
The magnificent brain, center of all perceptions.
You can go at this supplementing via the various vitamins or through what you prepare and put on the table.
Your H is going to start feeling better. It is nice to know that someone understands and supports you during the healing process. Lucky man.
I haven't seen you around for a while. Hoping things are going well. I am still hanging in there. H has new infatuation with a woman he met at a conference. I have seen a couple of flirtatious emails but thankfully she's a couple of thousand mies away! I know it will die off. I think his ego need the flirting.
I am still flirting. He is still on the fast path for D. He is preparing docs for attorney and is planning on moving out in January.
I think it might be good for him to go. He'll maybe get lonely. Like you I will take him coming back for any reason. I figure I can make it work if only he'll try again.
We are still very close on a regular basis. Last night he walked in when I was getting undressed and told me I have a great body. Also commented that for years he tried to get me to wear Victoria Secret things he bought me. I never would, I only wore flannels. Well now I wear all the sexy things and he's noticing. He said last night that he often wants to jump me when he sees me. I'm hopeful because there is no reason to say this unless he means it.
We are off to our cottage this weekend. He's asked me what I want for Christmas. Many mixed messages. Any ideas on being a girlfriend? What can we do that's fun but not pursuing?
Any hints would be great. Would love to hear from you.
I wish I knew Mary! I've been visiting About.comThyroid Dysfunction since Jan 01. I have her book plus another one. I was going thru them just today, trying to deduce if my H might have a undx thyroid condition/depression.
A lot of what I've based my health maintenance on is due to Mary's bb.
Thyroid Dysfunction can be a marriage breaker. I remember how lonely I felt as I was trying to understand that being hypo meant more than taking a little pill for the rest of my life. My hypo may be the result of hashimotos, which is a mysterious virus, or. . .who knows.
