Hi tiel, thank you for stopping by my thread,I just read up on your sit and it encouraged me so much. I was also not supportive wife either and was always moody, most of the time not good at all. ( I was new to be a mom and enough to deal with our S at home back then)I now realize how stressful it was for my H to be at home with me,he is also the man who was always good to me and did all the best he could to support me,but I was taking him so much for granted, thinking he would never ever leave me, how stupid I was...then he dropped the bomb, he even sent a long letter to me and my parents to tell he did not love me any more, how unhappy he had been and disatisfied with his life, so it`s better to leave now than later if we think about our S etc., I do not want to remember how hurtful it was, I felt it was the end of the world. but after 5 months of my DB ( a separation of 8 motnhs now) ,maybe things has alittle changed in a communication level. The first 3 months of separation( no DB), absolutely no contacts between us,then started exchenging emails every 3 weeks( I started backing off and maybe LRT), and now it is getting every 2 weeks besides he initiated calling for the first time lately. He does not mention a D now and does not even say he does not love me for the reason of our separation, he just says we are different.Like you advised, what I am trying to do now is to be the girl he fell in love with, be supportive and be a good friend,but sometimes I just do not know what and how I can do that with me being so far away from him ( we are continent apart ) this is why I am so afraid of possibility of him finding OW ,I really wish I could be around him like you were with your H... do you have any ideas how I can be supportive and become his OW? I appreciate if you come by my thread again to check on me when you have time, take care Stars
