Spoon If you can express your feelings without sounding desperate or begging I do not see how that honesty can hurt however I lost my M so my advice on this probably is not the best.
Stop Wanting her: That emotion will be there for some time and will be increased due to your deployment. You have to fight thru it. When you arrive past this situation good or bad you will end up much stronger. One poster called it the Refiner's fire. Many emotions in a combat zone are enhanced. It's the nature of the beast.
This is what I know not knowing your AO 1. Military has you in a box or specific job. Make it the shiniest box ever and do your best job. Thats a positive. 2. I know the temptation to call and email often. Keep the communication informative and upbeat as possible. No casualty counts ect. 3. Concentrate on the kids. If you can get any local items (plates, flag, currency) send it to them. Kids love that. 4. If you have a good chaplin use him. 5. Stay with this board and get a circle of support upon leaving the combat zone. That time is a challenge in itself.
You are not alone. Keep the bad guys unsafe and it's not about you.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
