spoon: when is she going to stop doing what she is doing to you? well when you give her reason to. drop all your weapons towards her, i was told by my c that dont give her any reason to hate you, that if you are always happy when in contact with w, it would be harder for her to divorce me. and you know what, after that she started to come around. im telling you, to be nice even if you dont agree with what ever she is saying or doing, i a talk is going south, get out of it. if she says your marriage was always bad, agree with her, even if you dont, validate what ever is her problem. if she wants to go back to the states the agree, ask her how you two can figure out a plan for that to happen, i know you think you will loose her for agreeing, but it does a complete oppisite to them. they start wondering why you believe that what they are saying, because really they dont believe it either. just learn to validate and be nice, no more fights. that was the hardest thing for me to do, but once i did my s changed almost over night. ignore her and only talk to your kids right now, if she wants to talk make it a good one even if she trys to piss you off dont let her. you say you have 45 days before she can do anything, try to be happy with her in those 45 days and maybe in 10 days her mood might change.
