spoonhound,
Like you I am a cheater. There were two women in my life. My wife and the OW. This went on for eight months. On Monday I made the final decision to end the affair and work on my marriage. I left my wife on two occasions. When I left my wife, she was not happy, but she NEVER begged me to come back. When I was living at the OW house I would still go over to see my daughter then go back to the OW house after my daughter went to bed. This went on for weeks. Not ONCE did my wife ask me to come back. She was kind and sweet.
On the other hand you have the OW's approach. When I was in the cloud of my affair I was REALLY close to leaving my wife to marry her. I even contacted a lawyer. Well when I told her it was over she went nuts. Begging me crying, then that turned to name calling etc.
I hope I would have done the right thing regardless, but things may have worked out differently if my wife had been the pushy begging one and the OW showed my unconditional love.
Take from this what you will.
And THANK YOU for putting your life on the line over there. Please be safe.
