You made me come out of hiding just so I could reply to your post. I have been off the boards for sometime now but still read up to see how fellow dbers are doing.
First off...HAPPY BELATED B-DAY!!!!
I read through all your posts, your making great steps as far opening your own account and all. It is not finializing anything! In a way it is SHOWING her that you are GAL! I am sure she was a bit shocked. In the end we all need to look after ourselves though and her draining your account is not helping you in any way.
Let me tell you a little about myself and my situation. I am 26 and now a single mother to a 2 year old. Things in my situation were just unfixable. My X was abusive to me and my son. After my son coming home with bruises and being terrified of men the DBing stopped! I left my H when our son was 9 weeks. The hardest thing I ever did. Many nights I cried myself to sleep because of the pain of my loss. I am at a good place now. I am in contact with him due to my son but I no longer have feelings for him. I heard this quote once that I now live by "Everything will be okay in the end, and if it isn't....it's not the end."
Like you have read many times...give her the space she wants. Make her miss you!! We are creatures of habit. She is used to you calling. Maybe a week or two she may start to miss you and contact you. It is SO hard though, trust me I know. I was bad at it myself, but eventually I got the hang of it and the next thing you know my XH was sending me emails and texts just to see how i was.
I got a notebook and started writing him letters when it got bad. Telling him everything I was feeling at that moment. Even letting tears spill on to the paper. I figured if we did get back together I would give him the journal of letters so he knew how I felt. Best of all it was a release.
Expect these painful days and nights, expect that she will not take your calls or e-mails. The more prepared you are the better.
