Quote: Everyone is telling me the same thing and everyone makes sense. But, is everyone stronger than me?
No but most everyone has to start with the idea that #1, they want to save their marriage and #2, that the natural things of begging, pleading and being miserable all the time hasn't worked. That's when people come here for help and we tell them all those things, that when compared with what you've BEEN doing, make sense. That's when they read DB or DR and understand that what they need to do is FAR from easy but MUCH better in relation to the pain they are currently suffering.
As far as strength, I don't think we're any stronger than you are, I just think that we have finally understood that it's OK not to have all the answers and to lean on each other here every once in awhile. Lean on us if you want. Post a lot. Do whatever you have to do until you can catch ahold of the rope we're trying to get to you and when you do grab it, I am sure you will find the strength you need to start climbing.
The strength is already there. It's what brought you here, and it's what you will learn to embrace.
