Wow, I'm impressed with your thinking, will take a page out of your book.
I relate -- my H and I are working on repairs, too -- and I amaze myself because forbearance is now in my repertoire. I'm not "fixing" things or "cleaning things up" or "jumping up" these days.
For example, my H just walked in and made lunch for us. We had some nice soup and sandwiches, he put on a new CD, then he reached out and pulled on my hair and pulled me close and kissed me, one of those "hey, how soon do you have to leave?" kisses and one thing led to another and...
Well, those plates with crumbs, empty glasses, soup and tuna cans and bread wrappers are still strewn around. The old me would have leapt up and bustled, or bullied and guilt-tripped him for not.
Instead, here I am savoring an afterglow.
Honestly, who knew? Michele really opened my eyes about how men open up and relate your way after you open up and relate their way.
I'm honestly getting the hang of this "wallpapering" or whatever it is. Sound like you are, too -- good going! Glad I found your post today!
