Quote: I believe she is in my life at this point to teach me to exercise grace and patience.
What a wonderful sentiment. I'll have to spend some time thinking about what my H's behaviour (er..lying and cheating..) is teaching me.
I am so sorry to hear about your sitch. Sucks, I know. At this point in my life/sitch, I am taking EVERY opportunity to change my focus on everything from other people/things to ME! Focusing on me allows me the opportunity to change my life and the relationships in my life because relationships are merely a series of circular interactions and by changing MY role/responses in the interactions, the R WILL change because it must.
One other aspect of myself that I constantly work on is minimizing my own criticism of myself for backsliding despite my best efforts in DBing. I am getting better at NOT kicking myself so hard in the backside and reminding myself that my goal for myself is excellenceNOTperfection. I am working to take backsliding as a learning/growing experience. Helps me anyway.
Take care, read lots of sitches, post when you can. You never know when your experience, direction, perspective will help someone else in need.
