Quote: She also comented on a picture that a Thomas Kinkaide picture which she allowed me to take was quite nice and she may want it back. I simply told her, nope, it's going in my dining room.
Oh Yeah!
THAT was certainly not more of the same. I am working on msking similar responses in other scenarios with her. My biggest challenge is in always feeling like my W was criticizing/measuring me. I find myself still reacting to her remarks because I have conditioned myself to believing her remarks to me are just that: critical, measuring, judging. My W, to this day, still tells me that that is always how I felt about I was treated by her, and THAT was just not true, despite how I felt. My response was always , well maybe taking a look at how you treat me would be worthwile. Right now I am taking a hard look at the other side of the coin, that maybe taking a look at how I reacted to her treatment of me was, maybe, more of the problem than what she was actually doing/saying. That is difficult for me to sort out right now. I'd like to think that I am right in my thinking and in my assessment of our interactions, but at this point I'd much rather be happy than right.
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Quote: As the evening went on, my D5 began to misbehave b/c she was tired and didn't get to bed on time (mommy came over tonight). As I was disciplining my child, my W was undermining me and I simply asked her to NOT undermine me in front of our children. I assured her that I would always listen to her, but not when I was in the middle of dealing with a situation and certainly NOT in view of our children.
Brilliant, respectful and very alpha male.
Thank you so much. It felt awkward to respond forcefully and respectfully. But after I did it, it felt right; alpha male, I like that. I was happy I did that. Sad thing is, though, I have always been an alpha male with everyone in my life, except my W. I am still trying to figure out how that go so messed up from the rest of my life. Time will help me heal, get stronger, and figure it out.
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Quote: I believe she is in my life at this point to teach me to exercise grace and patience. She often seems to get lost in what I deem a logical sequence of thoughts. Perhaps it's me. I don't know. I know that I don't have s similar problem with anyone else that I speak with on a daily basis and I talk for a living. Hmmm....
I think you are right.
I think I am right too, but this is another aspect of my life that I am taking a hard look at to determine if my view of this situation is skewed because I am viewing it through my paradigm of the world. I don't know. What I do know is that my W seems to be a great friend to her friends, but her challenge lies in being in a committed R for fear of losing herslf and, as she has told me, fear of losing her "me" time.
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Quote: I had my 3rd interview, this time with the director of marketing. The inteview went well. I'll know next TH or before. We'll see. Additionally, the two prevous jobs I turned dow have both been in contact with me about working for them. Another miracle. I would still love for oe more miracle though.
Then keep thinking that it can happen. YOU are making these miracles happen. WHatever happens will be because of what YOU do.
I see what you have been talking about. I control my own destiny and create my own miracles because of what I do. I believe in me. I believe in God. I believe in miracles.
