Quote: I had my 5th test and 2nd panel interview for a job with a large reputable company with LOTs of opportunity for advancement. The last panel said they would recommend me for the position and that, although he NEVER does this, he would talk with some other managers about me and possibly using me and my skill sets in other areas than the one I recently applied for. I am DOING. I am so afraid to DO anything b/c I feel like any action other than what my W wants and approves of will surely mean my D. But who am I kidding, my W is so sure that she wants the D. I have to stop living for her because I am dying by not living for me.
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Yes, that's the one. Thank you. I appreciate it.
Quote: Ummmm....the job prospect sounds like a great opportunity and I hope they call you back...and ummmmm.....what the hell does it matter what your wife thinks? SHE wanted to be separated from you, well she is....
It doesn't matter. One more step away from my codependence on her. BTW, thank you for your comment about manliness and working for my MIL. Made complete sense when someone else said that.
Quote: Quite frankly it is none of her business where you work...and besides that, she treats you like crap and it's not good to have your mother in law up your butt all the time because I have gotten the feeling she rides both sides of the fence...
I have come to the same conclusion. It's just that often I am unclear on how to proceed when it comes to my W. I'm not that way anywhere else in my life. As far as my MIL goes, she always wants to look like the good guy (girl?) to everyone even when both sides are mutually exclusive and have severely opposing wants/views.
Quote: ...and can you tell me, just how long HAS it been that you have been trying to read you wife's mind and do only what you perceive would make her happy?
Our entire M.
Quote: Well, times they are a changin'.
You're gonna make YOU happy now.
Just be your own man, man.
Remember?
A while back I gave you a mason jar....
Yep, times are a changin'. I actually broke the mason jar a couple of days ago (took 'em out first, of course!). Feels good to be havin' a pair again. It feels even better to remind myself that I don't need to be an A-hole to have 'em. I'm gettin' use to 'em again. Feel kinda foreign.
I am DOING. I am so afraid to DO anything b/c I feel like any action other than what my W wants and approves of will surely mean my D. But who am I kidding, my W is so sure that she wants the D. I have to stop living for her because I am dying by not living for me. 
Made complete sense when someone else said that.
Feels good to be havin' a pair again. It feels even better to remind myself that I don't need to be an A-hole to have 'em. 
