Quote: I pegged you because in many ways YOU are ME. It's like looking in a mirror.
Not fair, that's like a magician giving away the secret of his special trick to the awed audience. I love the explanation nonetheless, and I do feel that we are kindred spirits, but it takes the awe out of your feat since you were looking in the mirror.
Quote: Here's something I haven't shared before. For a long time I used to listen to these songs practically every time I was depressed. Every time. I felt they were telling my life story...
And my all time favorite 'victim' song. (couldn't find a link that was accurate so I put it in here)
Moving Pictures: What About Me?
You, sir, had a tendency to BE much more sad than I. Especially since you had some anthems to your misery. I'm not sure if iI should look for an anthem or 3 of my own.
I am feeling the surge of power from de-linking my feelings from my W's whims and GAL. Today is day 1. Tomorrow is day two.
Preparing myself mentally to move into my new place. Not a fun emotional exercise.
Quote: Are you keeping the kids AND trying to move??
No, but trying to keep to my regular schedule. Hard to keep my emotions in check as the reality of moving all my stuff is rapidly approaching.
Quote: Because I am gonna flip right the hell out if that is what is happening....
No, but there was more stuff last night and today. My W called me to tell me that she found our cat, who is mostly indoors, outside last night and looking terrible. She took the cat to the emergency vet and I picked up the cat today and took her to a different hospital. Here's the sticky part. I brought that cat to the marriage. When my W kicked me out she told me she is keeping the two cats I brought into the M. I told her fine, the cats should stay with D5 anyway. My W keeps telling me that I need to make a decision and I tell her that WE need to make the decision. She says nothing except what do you want to do? I told her I wanted to save my cat and it isn't the cat's fault that we have other circumstances that are even making her care a question. Anyway, I get the estimate from the hospital and my W says she has NO money to pay for the cat's care. I told her, well, this is all about CHOICES, choices in how money is spent and you just made my decision for me. I told her I had to go. I lost it. I was crying. She calls me back to ask me what I did. I made the decision to give my cat a chance to live. She asks me who are they going to call? I told her that I told them to ONLY call me. She then asks me if I am taking her? I told her I am not a heartless SOB. Her response? Sometimes you are. I again told her I needed to go.
Such as life. Perhaps my friend is correct. Perhaps this behavior is who she has always been and I just refused to see it. I don't want to believe that. I love her. I see the beauty in who she is not the ugliness in her hurt, anger and resulting reactions.
I'm sorry about your cat. I'm glad that you chose to save her. Pets mean a lot in my family, which would explain why I was digging a hole for 2 hermit crabs & a goldfish for my niece when I dug up a snake last weekend...
Anyway, as for that "friend" you mentioned, he/she is your devil's advocate. Don't give place to the enemy, who will use anyone and anything to make you doubt that you should stand. Trust me on this, I can back up the claim .
As for the SOB comment, aside from saying "well it takes one to know one!", there was nothing TO say. She took a cheap shot. Good for you for not striking back.
Thicken the ol' hide, HH. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it will get worse before it gets better. The good news is that soon you will see it coming and be able to dodge the sh*t before it hits the fan.
Keep on keepin' on. Your stand is backed by an army you can not see. Angels are encamped all around you.
Quote: I'm sorry about your cat. I'm glad that you chose to save her.
Thank you. Me too. She is MY first pet of my own. I love that little bugger, even if I was allergic to cats when I got her. But not anymore. It makes me happy that once she's better, she'll go back home to our D5.
Quote: Anyway, as for that "friend" you mentioned, he/she is your devil's advocate.
Unfortunately, I love that friend like a sibling...but then again, I don't trust my siblings to make decisions for MY life either, not matter how well-meaning they say they are.
Quote: Don't give place to the enemy, who will use anyone and anything to make you doubt that you should stand. Trust me on this, I can back up the claim .
I didn't think of it in this way. Should have. The enemy is a sneaky one, isn't he? Goes after those I trust. VERY sneaky.
Quote: As for the SOB comment, aside from saying "well it takes one to know one!", there was nothing TO say. She took a cheap shot. Good for you for not striking back.
Was hurting about my kitty and then the swift kick in the nvts hurt like a mother.
Quote: Thicken the ol' hide, HH. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it will get worse before it gets better.
My hide I will thicken, like a rhinocerous' a$$!
Quote: The good news is that soon you will see it coming and be able to dodge the sh*t before it hits the fan.
Unfortunately, that doesn't make it hurt any less just because I anticipate it coming.
Quote: Keep on keepin' on.
I will. I will. With more determination and faith.
Quote: Your stand is backed by an army you can not see. Angels are encamped all around you.
Quote: I had my 5th test and 2nd panel interview for a job with a large reputable company with LOTs of opportunity for advancement. The last panel said they would recommend me for the position and that, although he NEVER does this, he would talk with some other managers about me and possibly using me and my skill sets in other areas than the one I recently applied for. I am DOING. I am so afraid to DO anything b/c I feel like any action other than what my W wants and approves of will surely mean my D. But who am I kidding, my W is so sure that she wants the D. I have to stop living for her because I am dying by not living for me.
Is that what you want a response to?
Ummmm....the job prospect sounds like a great opportunity and I hope they call you back....and ummmmm.....what the hell does it matter what your wife thinks? SHE wanted to be separated from you, well she is. Quite frankly it is none of her business where you work...and besides that, she treats you like crap and it's not good to have your mother in law up your butt all the time because I have gotten the feeling she rides both sides of the fence...and can you tell me, just how long HAS it been that you have been trying to read you wife's mind and do only what you perceive would make her happy?
Cool, getting a new job! I like that. And I echo AmyC, WHo the hell cares what W thinks and yes, having your ML out of your A$$ will help with your emotional constipation.
I'm here at my office working and it's a good thing nobody is here because I laughed so hard I cried!.
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