I'm sorry about your cat. I'm glad that you chose to save her. Pets mean a lot in my family, which would explain why I was digging a hole for 2 hermit crabs & a goldfish for my niece when I dug up a snake last weekend...
Anyway, as for that "friend" you mentioned, he/she is your devil's advocate. Don't give place to the enemy, who will use anyone and anything to make you doubt that you should stand. Trust me on this, I can back up the claim .
As for the SOB comment, aside from saying "well it takes one to know one!", there was nothing TO say. She took a cheap shot. Good for you for not striking back.
Thicken the ol' hide, HH. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it will get worse before it gets better. The good news is that soon you will see it coming and be able to dodge the sh*t before it hits the fan.
Keep on keepin' on. Your stand is backed by an army you can not see. Angels are encamped all around you.
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