There seems to be a wave of "tough lovers" ot there. I promised myself not to be a doormat ever. I got pushed pretty close because the alien showed up at a time of year where I work 13-14 hrs/day 6 days and some Sundays so I was emotionally drained by the end of the season. When I gained a little strength I made requests (not demands) of my W and when she has complied I show appreciation. I can't believe how far that has gotten me in only 3 months. I also have learned to read her needs better. She has times when she needs a ton of attention from me and other times when she needs her space. I am getting a very good understanding of those "swings" and that has helped dramatically. That is the root of my "enjoy yout good times" attitude. Make the most of the good times and get the heck out of there when you can't do anything right. I usually go exercise to relieve stress and typically by the time I am done we are both in better moods. I believe very strongly in using physical attractiveness to draw our SO back. Obviously it won't "close the deal" but it does get them thinking.
