No, TBone, I don't think you are aggressive. I'm all for saving my marriage, but I'm not going to be a doormat for him any longer or actually any man. I know that I deserve better. I get the feeling you feel the same way.
I'm currently reading "The Five Love Lanuages". I know that my love language is words of affirmation. But after 10 years of marriage to the same man, I don't know what his is. Isn't that sad? Talk about lack of intimate communication!
I did have H fill out a sheet that was prompted by my counselor. Its asks the simple questions of What do you like about W?, Your description/expectation of a good relationship/marriage?, List of my expection about W's behavior? He filled it out and only asked for trust and support for the last question. He knows I'm struggling with the trust. But the sheet also asked, Why do you want to come back?, And Why did you leave? I filled out the same sheet. My list of expections or his behavior and a relationship is a lot longer than his. Does that make me high maintence? Or just the difference between men and women? I was encouraged that he filled out his sheet the night I gave it to him. We'll see what the counselor says tomorrow.
Thanks for your comments. I enjoy and respect the advice I've seen you give people. I agree totally with a lot of it. Tough love is hard, but well worth it.
