I have both of them and have read them at least twice with highlights. DR is better and talks point blank about thinking you not "in love" anymore. It has a great chapter on handling the difference in sexual appetites. That is where I thought we were.
We went through the whole thing about his moving out. He changed his mind and said he was committed to working on the marriage. That is why I started to address the issues one by one that we are having. The most important one to me was the lack of sex/attention. Our talk the other night started out about the sex then turned to our R in general. With him saying he doesn't feel any different towards me in his heart than when he had planned to move out. And that, in fact, he should of moved out.
That is what threw me for a loop. I was under the impression that we were both committed to the same thing. Our marriage and it's problems. Now it seems he's not committed to our marriage.
I did copy and paste my sitch to the newcomers forum I was using for the whole seperation issue. Sorry, I didn't mean to get this one off track. You can visit me at the newcomers forum.
