Thanks for responding. Your post gave me food for thought. But no, my life is not completely wrapped up in serving my husband. I am a stay at home wife and my job is to take care of the house. I have a life of my own. I have my own friends, go places without my husband, etc. In fact, in August I am going on a "girls getaway" with 7 girlfriends to Florida for 10 days in the sun. I have been "acting as if" and GAL . I make plans on my own and don't expect him to join in. Nice if he does though. I feel that I don't have anything to prove and I am happy with everything else in my life. I just want my H to love me the way he used to.
You are right on the money though about our M being dull and boring. We have ignored our M for too long and it got kicked to the curb. I didn't know how to take care of a marriage - i guess I thought love would get us through anything. I was wrong. Now since I've read DB and DR more than once I can see all the mistakes we both made and solutions to turn things around.
I never thought about military men being adrenaline junkies, needing danger and excitement, but I think you may be on to something. He is a very busy guy. He is General Manager of a very large Harley-Davidson dealership now and all that that entails. I ride my own Harley and we do enjoy that hobby together. Doesn't like much TV and wants to be on the run all the time.
I will check out some of the threads you mentioned.
