I'm sorry, did you say a 5 yr affair? My H had a 2 1/2 yr affair and I though tthat was the longest one on here. Tell me, when he broke it off did he do it once and for all or did it take him awhile. Isn't trust almost impossible to regain after somethig like that? My H broke off the A as soon as I learned about it and has had NO contact with her since he says. He ws ready to greak it off I think. She was not soemone he would want to spend the rest of his life with anyway -to much baggage-older than him, not pretty, I could go on but I won't. How did it go when your H broke it off. The OW in iour case was soemone who he had been firends with for yrs through business-she really jumped onthe bandwagopn when he started talking about our problems. SHe wanted hiim bad and thought hse was going to get him -he moved out for 6 months. Then I found out anout the A and he moved back home and has bveen home for 5 months. Trsut is REALLY slow to come. HE tells me he loves me all the time-tells me he has no desire to call or talek to her but these could all be jsut words. How dod you know it was really over??? Rachael M.
