I should not have let it get to me like it did. I am getting ahead of myself and not recognizing the huge steps we've already made! He seems to me to be pretty happy, and told me he was last week and then we had an upset and I asked him if what he said about being happy was true. He said sometimes I am and sometimes I'm not. It's when we are not getting along that he thinks back to the times when it was like that almost all the time and it takes him right back. Just like when something reminds me of the A it takes me right back. We almost never fight now-we just talk. I wish we would talk about more in depth things but I guess I just have to settle for what we have right now-it's not worth getting worked up over most stuff. We have C tonight. That almost always brings us closer together because its such a safe invironment and she knows we need work on communication so we do excercises in that and it makes us feel close. This week she gave us something kinda cool to do for homework-we had to list things that were mission statements like we had already accomplished them-for example "we laugh together", then you rate it on a scale of 1-5 how important it is to you and then you also rate it's difficulty that we are having achieving it. We each do our own and then we'll compare. I did mine right away and Adrian has to do his today-nothing like waiting till the last minute! I came up with 3 pages of stuff!! Yesterday was a good wednesday.I thought there for awhile wed nesdayas were doom days,but he broke the pattern yesterday. He called me several times during the day and when he got home he was on his cell phone talking to our BIL and I attacked him as he was talking on the phone!! He really liked that-I used to do stuff like that all the time. I guess I need to keep doing it.He was a happy camper!! How's things going with you and yours??? Rachael M. PS. Thanks for the input. I just needed validation from others to let it go about my SILs comment.
We all have our ups and downs. This happens at the best of times. The problem is, when we go for an extended down - like we all have done - the downs get magnified.
You're on your way to seeing/feeling the downs in a less pronounced way. Don't let comments from other people like your SIL (who I'm sure had the best of intentions) deflect you from your path.
This thread is gettning too big, so I'm moving over to The Boxer
