The sexual stuff is getting better again. Its just like everything else with all this-you have to ride the waves. They come and go and everytime they come back in they stay longer-most of the time. I'm choosing to beleive my H about the bed. He told me last night that he would always be faithful to me. Of course it was inthe heat of intiamcy but I beleive he means it. Now, am know I will still have days when he is distant that I will question it all,but then I see howhe is acting and it is so much different than when he was in the A. HE was always so angry at me. Now he will reassure me whenver I need it adn I'm needing it less-I know I sound horrid on here,but my H does not see that side of me. If I ever ask hom anyting its ina very calm way and I think it our first and do the thing Michelle says to ask yourself, Will it bring me closer....ITs all in how you say things, and I know I can;t say as much as I'd like. I am very careful not to overdo. I wanted to bring the bed thing up again yesterday but I knew it was nott he thing to do. IT made me mad that that's how it has to be but nobody wants to be drilled about something over and over so I dropped it. We had a lovely evening out to dionner with our neighbors and he was ready fro me when he came in last night from helping our neighbor fix his tail light on his motorcycle. It was GREAT!!!!! You were right Andy-it will get better-it already is! A good sign huh? Rachael M.