ok we talked ..It was a litle weird at first because we haven't actually spoken face to face in 4 weeks. We talked about everything except our relationship. When H first got here he brought a phone for D6 to call him or me a(one of those kids phone) which is fine. I said that is good now he doesn't have to call me to reach d6..he repiled if you don't want me to call you ..I said no that is ot what I meant. He said he was a little nervous coming because he though I was angry. But I wasn't and that was a 180 for me. We started talking about our lives (seperate lives) . I told H if if really wanted us to be friends he had to be honest with me as I am with him. Before we started talking H asked me to come here..and grabbed me and hugged me so tightly. Yes, I did hug him back. It felt like the right thing to do. I told him the reason why I haven't spoken to him was so I could move past this and go on with my life. We then talked about what was going on in our lives. H did say he was seeing someone and was just having fun. He said he goes out wih her every so often and they just have a good time. She's a 23 yr old college student he is 32. I just listened and listened. No. I did not show at least one bit of anger or concern. Well , as we continued to talk I asked H if he was happy his reply was"at times". H then asked me if I was and I said yes. We are just enjoying our lives I guess. H repiled I am single and just trying to have fun. i said maybe this divorce could be good for us then..He said sure maybe(not too positive about it) H would look down alot during our conversations. We continued to talk and he reached over and grabbed my hand and held it for awhile. It was so strange because we hadn't been that way in awhile. H then asked if he could make me and d6 something to eat.I said sure .
I tried making it light and comfortable because I know h expected me to be upset. Well , then he pulled me to sit with him(all unexpected). I did and told him how comfortable that felt. We continued to talk and he once again pulled me toward him. I just sat with him not knowing if it was right or wrong. H was getting ready to leave and thanked me for having this talk. Overall it was a good conversation. Was I a little upset about seeing that he was seeing someone..yes. But she is 23v and probably just a way to have fun. I do want my H to see me differently and want me back. I just don't know what to do to reach that point. I didn't speak of us ..I just spoke as if he was a friend and that's it.
Well, what do you think. Thanks so much for all your advice
