Andy is quite right about patterns espescially about who is right or wrong. Michelle wrote about this in her book. If you want to break the pattern of right/wrong, you must realize it simply does not matter who is right or wrong and cease to participate any futher in the dispute.
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quote: Then when we left HE had to go deliver some windows to a jop and hlaf heartedly asked if I wanted to go and I said do you want me to go? He said It doesn't matter, I don't care either way. WEll, That hurt my feelings so of course I didn't want to go then.
In the above, the oppurtune time to break the pattern was to act "as-if" he wanted you to go and just say "Yes!" and go. It was not a real stretch to act, because he really did wantd you to go or he would not have asked. By asking, "Do you want me to go?", you put him on the defensive because he had already asked you and doesn't feel the need to repeat it. This just perpetuated the pattern rather than changing towards a more positive outcome.
