Rachael - Sometimes the greatest weapon in this battle can be a good sense of humor. For both you and your R.
ANS is absolutely correct in the "patterns of thinking" comment. It HAS to be broken by someone, or it will continue on.
How often do you use your sense of humor to diffuse a potentially difficult time? What are some ways you might be able to get him to laugh instead of him turning into a craphead?
Just some food for thought.
JJ
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