I think there are still some demons there. Not in your marriage but you. I have read your situation. You are a fighter. You are a survivor. You choose your destiny. You have some wisdom to throw out.
I am a control freak too. Have you said "F...IT" "I" do not have all the answers. F it all just let it all go and not try to figure it all our yourself.
Frank you are a self made man. I will hand you that. ANYBODY that thinks they have life figured out is full of sh^t. We have common experiences that can help others and they can relate to. (I know never end a sentence with a preposition)
Let go and have faith. I ain't gonna lie. I can't do that now. I know I need to. I know you need to.
I think there are still some demons there. Not in your marriage but you. I have read your situation. You are a fighter. You are a survivor. You choose your destiny. You have some wisdom to throw out.
There will always be demons. It's part of my life. And yes, I am a great believe in the fact that while we are influenced by others, we ultimatly DO choose our destiny. And we choose whether or not to let the demons have their way with us. I choose not.
Quote: I am a control freak too. Have you said "F...IT" "I" do not have all the answers. F it all just let it all go and not try to figure it all our yourself.
In a different way. I just say "well, eventually the answer will reveal itself as long as I am open to it." The anwers to everything are always out there. I just have to stay out of my own way before it will be revealed to me.
Quote: Frank you are a self made man. I will hand you that. ANYBODY that thinks they have life figured out is full of sh^t.
Well, we can 'figure it out' to some extent, but not all the way...
Quote: Let go and have faith. I ain't gonna lie. I can't do that now. I know I need to. I know you need to.
Take Care Frank.
I know it doesn't come across in all my posts, but I do let go and I do have faith.
****And we choose whether or not to let the demons have their way with us. I choose not.....I just have to stay out of my own way before it will be revealed to me.....Well, we can 'figure it out' to some extent, but not all the way...
Buddy this all seems contradictory. You choose but you let go? You have the answers but you don't? You control it all but it fades?
Not bustin' balls here. I would give anything to be in the same philosophical shoes as you. I read and followed your sitch b/c you seem to have it together. I don't. I'm just looking for answers.
I'm just trying to get a grasp on your world view.
I don't have a full one yet. I thought I did, but I was wrong.
Fill me in Frank.
I'll tell ya. I DONT have all the answers. I used to think I did. I have some insight. I do have that. But now I'm strugglin'. Just tryin' to plug along and do the right thing.
That may make me stupid or apathetic. I don't know or care.
Quote: ****And we choose whether or not to let the demons have their way with us. I choose not.....I just have to stay out of my own way before it will be revealed to me.....Well, we can 'figure it out' to some extent, but not all the way...
Buddy this all seems contradictory. You choose but you let go? You have the answers but you don't? You control it all but it fades?
That is probably because you are thinking and speaking in absolutes. I never said I 'control it ALL'. Nor did I say 'choosing' and 'letting go' apply to the same event or situation at the same time. But they can.
We're always presented with choices in every aspect of our lives - no matter what the situation. To that extent we are in control of some part of that situation. It may be small, it may be large. But it's there.
While we Can choose how we react and deal with our life's experiences, we can NOT control others, that's when we need to let go. In many ways, by 'letting go' of something we are in control - of ourselves.
We have ALL 'figured out' life. It's just that some of us have only figured out ENOUGH of life to survive, while others have figured more. Regardless, none of us have it ALL figured out. As you say, if someone tells me that I say BS.
OK. I see your point now. I can agree with most of that.
I guess my hang up is that sometimes life gives us things that we cannot control. Yes we can control or at least react to it as we wish, but it may or may not change the outcome.
Quote: OK. I see your point now. I can agree with most of that.
I guess my hang up is that sometimes life gives us things that we cannot control. Yes we can control or at least react to it as we wish, but it may or may not change the outcome.
Yes, that's it exactly. We can control ourselves no matter what. If we choose to.
I sent you an email asking for advice. I don't think the link to my sitch is working so I apologize for any inconvenience. My reply should have a link though. I would appreciate any input. Thanks and congratulations on your continued success. You absolutely deserve it. We all do, that fact that we are here standing up for our marriages.
