Andy-has your wife ever diliberately tried to pick a fight with you and then turn it around so tht you look like the bad guy? My H is the Master of that. We were in the Dr.s office and he just looked at me and said What are you taking? I said what do you mean-he said your speech is all slurred. Well, It most assuradly was NOT and I had taken less medication than normal and I was talking fine. Then when we left HE had to go deliver some windows to a jop and hlaf heartedly asked if I wanted to go and I said do you want me to go? He said It doesn't matter, I don't care either way. WEll, That hurt my feelings so of course I didn't want to go then. We talked a little about it before he left and it was right back to the I can't talk to you crap, which I was perfectly calm trying to figure out what was wrong with him. I told him he hurt my feelings and he could have cared less-he was mad at me and turned it around like it was all my doing. I was so upset I was shaking all over. I called him in his truck later and we talked and of course I tried to smooth things over but he still acted mad. I'm noticing a pattern it seems if its not my imagination that he gets this way every week either on tuesday or wednesday. It really makes me wonder if he's talking to her and then is just nasty because she has fed him a bunch of crap, and it gives him and out of being with me sexually if he's been with her. I'm pulling at straws here I know but its just too wierd. What could it be? Why do they act like that for no reason, and then act totally insensitive to you no matter how your hurting? It really makes me crazy and I can't stand the controversy so I'll try to make up when he gets home and he'll be all distancing and say I 'm trying to control him with sex or make light of what happened. My speech was not slurred!!! HE thinks he's never wrong. He could have just said sorry, I though I heard it that way,but no he has to get all nasty and defensive. I don't know what to do when this happens and it really sets me back , and makes me think he's talking to her. I hope that's not the case. I told him he told me the other day that when I asked h im if he was happy he said yes, I asked him if he meant it. He said sometimes I am and soemtimes I'm not-just making no sense. I can't stand this-really it gets to me something bad. Do you ever experience this? Should I be concerned that it is becasue he could be talking to the OW?? Tell me what you think because I'm at a loss. Rachael M.
