Frank - you would be my first choice, and the first choice of a lot of people on this board. Don't under sell yourself.. you rock..I told you I would start posting!
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change; (Life, the Universe, other people)
courage to change the things I can;(me, my attitudes, my behaviour, my reactions)
and wisdom to know the difference
Quote: Frank - you would be my first choice, and the first choice of a lot of people on this board. Don't under sell yourself.. you rock..I told you I would start posting!
I just want to thank you for all of the help that you provided me with. When I hit rock bottom, YOU were the first person that I called because you helped me see things clearly and think rationally. You told me that my marriage is not over if my wife filed because it is just a piece of paper. I couldn't understand what you were saying at that time, but now I do. You encouraged me to continue DBing if I wanted to save my marriage.
THANK YOU FRANK! It has been a month for us being back together and I am enjoying life. Especially seeing D2 happy to have both parents together.
I want to thank you for all of your support and guidance from the bottom of my heart.
God Bless, OneWish
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
Quote: THANK YOU FRANK! It has been a month for us being back together and I am enjoying life. Especially seeing D2 happy to have both parents together.
I want to thank you for all of your support and guidance from the bottom of my heart.
Knowing your WHOLE family is happy is my reward. Thank YOU for letting me share that part of your life. The three of you are on the path to really living.
There's a poster in the Infidelity forum...goes by "Hopeful Husband"...can you take some time to get familiar with his sitch and jump in and help me and grasshopper out? I think he needs your brand of expertise . He says he's finally 'getting it' but I am not sure so I thought I'd call in for some back up....
Quote: One question for you: Have you truly let your 'old ways' go? They can sneak up on you when you least expect them.
Yes, I have truly changed my ways. I am not going to fall back into my old patterns. Through this process, I have learned that my wife and God are my #1 priorities. I have learned that even though I am in my 20s, I can be more mature and break free from my parents and continue to form a strong relationship with my wife. I do need to re-read the books and continue to read. I went from working 20 hours a week to working 50 hours a week now that I have graduated from graduate school. I will continue to read and learn as much as I can. I really am enjoying life.
I laughed this morning while I was golfing and I thought about something that you told me Frank. I said that I'll quit golfing just to make my wife happy. You told me, that I can't do that because that is something that I enjoy and that I would be miserable if I didn't do things to make myself happy. You are right, I can't give up golf. My wife takes priority over my golfing. I can now enjoy a round of golf and not have extraneous things on my mind to frustrate me.
I'll need to read your thread to see where you are. I am praying that your family is able to be happy again.
God Bless
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
Quote: Yep. Remember that women do not want men to 'fix' their problems if they don't ASK you to.
This really does worn when you just listen to them and not add your opinion or solution unless they ask. It is so funny. My mom would come home every day after work and complain about work. I noticed that my father would just sit there on the computer playing party poker and wouldn't respond. Then my mom would get up and leave happy. I made a comment to my mom that my dad wasn't listening to what she had to say. He said, yes I am, she said such and such. Little did I know that what he is doing works. Now I get it!
Quote: And, if you didn't get the answer to my previous 'quiz', her question was 'will you do this to me again?'. She doesn't need an answer, she needs you to know it's on her mind and it scares her.
Nothing but positives here.... You are doing a great job.
I will never hurt her again. She has asked me this question and I assured her that I would not be that type of person any more. Thanks. You played a vital part in my success when I was breaking DB rules and feeling worthless. I was finally able to stand on my own two feet, be accountable, and be willing to change.
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
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