Rachel, you need that post over on your thread to use as your thought stopper.

Tammy has a gift which she is freely sharing w us. Believe her when she says "WAS" in reference to your H and the ow. Tammy did not use "IS".

That says it all w regard to where his thoughts are re her.

I'd like to ask Andy to take that section of the post and put it in bold face so that you'll be calmed by reading those words. PLease, Andy. Thanks!