Andy-no need to move it -I found it and read it. It was a big help, and how did Lily know My rollar coaster gears are starting to creak today?? It's just the distancing thing they do and I don't quite know how to handle that right now or what to think of it when he does it. Of course I catastrifize, and think that he is missing her, or he is thinking of her, or has had contact with her. The gears are creaking!!! I hear its normal, but its not normal for me! I don't like it and if I bring it up that he seems distant he does one of two things-denies he feels distant, or gets defensive, so I said nothing just cuddled up by him which normally used to would have made him want sex, and THAT didn't happen so I'm reallly thinging now something is going through his head. I hate that they do thais to us and we don't have a clue as to what is going on. CHances are though is has SOMETHING to do with the A or OW to some degree, but who knows? DO they really have to go through all this crap??? OR should I say do we really have toi go through all this crap? I mean he's back-tells me he loves me daily , so what is this about??? Sorry I sound so whiney,but my, I do get tired of this, and my hunch is I have a ways to go before these little episodes are over. Rachael M.
