Swan Dive off the Pedestal

[Jamesjohn]

Hey Andy!

"But something I always post to people is that “what works” is a moving target. I agree that it’s a challenge to let go of what doesn’t work, but sometimes it’s an even bigger challenge trying to figure out what works. Especially over the long term."

I must agree with you that, whenever you're dealing with others, what works can be a moving target. However, there is another possibility of what can be done.

The best "win / win" scenario I've come across for "what works" is going back to the idea of "drawing" your partner back to you. This is best done by taking to focus of off your relationship, and put the focus back on you, to "be the best me that I can be!"

You know this, you've done it, you just need to keep focused on that when nothing else seems to be working. This helps to displace any pressure your partner may feel coming from you, gives them space to deal with their stuff, and gives them an example of a place where they might want to be.

"win / win".