I'd like to get some opions if what I am considering is wrong?!?
There have been no changes in my situation, more of the same. My W remains out of town (will be a total of 30 days). I thought the distance might stir something up in her. She frequently says she misses me, but does not bring up any kind of sexual related discussion. I told her this a.m. that I just cannot continue like this. She is the one I want to be with, but otherwise I need something else and soon. I have a meeting with the MC tonight by myself and I plan to tell MC that I cannot go on "status quo" permanently. Pre-marriage sex was great, frequent & uninhibited. Post marriage (from day 1) sex is maybe 1x every 2 months and mundane at best. Currently I think it'c coming up on 3 months for this recent dry spell.
Also I plan to discuss with the MC if it's ok that I cut her off. By that I mean defining who is responsible for what and just doing my stuff, giving regular monthly monies - but not one cent more, no extra help from me on her responsibilities and no help on managing her ex-h issues or anything else. Maybe some see this is wrong and I'd welcome your suggestions, but I feel I have to make some steps forward and see if she steps with me or we step in different directions.
