Swan Dive off the Pedestal

[Jamesjohn]

ANS, my friend, methinks that thou focuses too much attention on thy relationship with thoust wife, and places not enough focus upon thyself!

It seems to me that you and your wife bounce back and forth on who needs to take care of whom. As nice as it sounds as to what a couple needs to do, and should do, it doesn't need to be that way. It doesn't seem to be working for you.

I had to have it hammered into my head many times by a couple of counselours, AND people on this board, that I needed to take care of myself first. I got nowhere, at least in my situation, until I took that advice to heart.

You guys seem to be stuck. What can you do that's different?

IMHO, with much love, JJ!