Don't forget we are all here because of similar issues. I think we are all (forgive me people) pretty "common" everyday Joes and Josephines. Something I have learned here is that other smart, attractive, loving people have SL issues too. I thought the fact that I had SL issues pointed out that I wasn't smart, kind, attractive, loving etc... It was one of my litmus tests of myself. Well, being on this board doesn't make me a failure, having a sucky sex life doesn't make me a failure, even having a prior failed marriage doesn't make me a failure unless I permit it. There is always more to me than whatever thing I am currently failing at. Chrome, you are a good man, a good Dad, a good husband. I can't predict what will happen to you and Mrs. Chrome. Right now, I am mostly interested in seeing that you are ok. I am thinking of you and hoping that things get better.
Karen
PS Can't look down on you. I'm feeling kinda low myself.
Yo, emotional-workout-buddy...Hey, remember? We are supposed to be spotting each other. Can't spot you if you go into a dark corner of the weight room and try to press 400 pounds without clueing me in.
Email me at slinky22 at gmail.com and we'll talk. No need to carry that weight all by yourself, pal.
I totally get the "common thing" comments people give you. No one seems to understand how devastating it can be when you feel you have no decent options left. Email me, bro.
Re chrom ." It doesn't feel common to me. Maybe I have just led a sheltered life compared to other people
I can relate to that comment chrom. Lets just say, it takes guts sometimes to spill the beans.
I also feel if I get advice like "that is common" it is because it is and the OP is at a loss of what to do. With some situations there are no answers that work right then. Sometimes jellyfish in the water means no swimming (solutions or helpful advice is available) for a while. Remember, the jelly-fish season does not last indefinitely.
I am so glad you posted today. Remember we are on your team to help, not only you but ourselves too. We are a group that depend on all of it's members. Up/down is not important, the groups and related spouses condition/progress are what's important.
Quote: ---------------------------------------- I am basically in a place right now where I either break my heart or destroy my world. I've tried to talk with several people about it, but the main response I get is "this is common issue that you are making out to be some terrible thing." It doesn't feel common to me. ----------------------------------------
Define common.
Common issues with women that behave the way your wife has been behaving;
- She is trying to get you to have unprotected sex with her because she has recently done so with someone else and wants to provide cover for the act.
- She has determined that the only way to fix your marriage is to do something familiar (comfortable) to her, such as being pregnant and caring for a newborn.
- She fears her behavior is driving you back to your previous affair thus making her even more clingy. This is not an unwarranted fear by the way.
- She may have sabotaged your condoms.
- You can't get it up because of her clinging.
Add your own list, but the above is 'common' for women in estrous who are seeking conception in earnest.
Which common act has befallen you? Whatever it is, no need for the drama. The good folks here will lend an ear and offer support.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
