Quote: Yes. That is a big part of my problem, and one of the things that has made me aware of my flaw.
Well, like others have said, I'm not so sure you have a flaw per se. And I really, really think there is something to what Hap brought up about depression. It isn't just the 'sad' or 'bad' things that can trigger depression.
I know I sound like a broken record, but I think you and your wife would really benefit from some of the things that Peace Between the Sheets talks about. I see you and your wife becoming very "O" driven... and when the "O" is done... it CAN leave you oddly hollow and empty, especially since the two of you have gone on a type of feeding frenzy.
While you may be fixing the 'sex' part, you still are not addressing the part which caused the problems in the first place... which is lack of EC. Lack of EC is what leads to lack of sex. That is why I think the 'just do it' method is only helpful in the very short run. It's a way of getting out of the 'blocks,' but it does nothing to help you finish the race.
Depression is not always a bad thing. It is completely natural in human chemical cycles. It is your body's barometer, and it is telling you something isn't necessarily a-okay in Dodge. You are spiking and crashing. If the depression goes on for too long, then yes, you may have a problem. But for now... try to ignore the thoughts that come from spike and crash cycles... let off the "O"s for a few days... hit the gym and get some endorphins going, and I think you will feel yourself begin to level out. THEN you can start thinking rationally again.
I personally feel that if you keep pursuing the sex before you have the EC re-established, or don't at least work as hard at the EC as you are at the sex... the two of you are really going to create a 'gulf' between yourselves. I've said it before and I will say it again: "Lack of sex is NOT the problem. It is only a SYMPTOM of the problem."
