While I don't really understand what this "flaw" is this whole "happy then sad" scenerio is reminding me of something I heard earlier today. As I work to understand more of the the depression my wife is going through and how to best deal with her in it, I was listening to a speaker. In her talk, she was discussing healing from depression and spoke of what she called the "triggers of depression". Most people think of the negative triggers... stress, family crisis, death, loss of job, etc. In other words.. there are lots of bad things that can happen to us that can trigger depression. But she also mentioned that there are also positive triggers as well, that some just don't think about. Moving into a nice neighborhood, can cause feelings of stress and "do I deserve this?" kind of thinking. for some, it is getting married, for some it is changes in the marriage, even for the positive, that can tip us off balance and steer us towards depressive behaviors and feelings. Each person has their own triggers. It just made me think of you... you have this huge turn for the better in your sex life.. what you have always said you wanted and now that you are getting it... it's not solving the problems you thought it would.. guess what.. a depression trigger. So just because you are experiencing a positive change in your wife, keep in mind that it CAN actually cause depression, not cure it as you may have previously thought. Just something to think about.
